Originally Posted by blinding light

Actually, it happens that when you are victimised by any form of physical or mental violence, then basically there are 2 major extremes to what that person can go to: S/He could either do everything they can to PROTECT OTHERS from similar violence, OR turn into an OFFENDER themselves..

This it the second case here - but like everyone said, reminding her and making her relive through her past pain is the suitable way to get her on track..